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- Recognizing Parental Alienation Disorder in the DSM V – The Time Is Now [Glenn Sacks]
- Canadian Researcher: ‘We must abandon the claim that the (family) court has been acting in children’s best interests’ [Glenn Sacks]
- Rape charges dismissed after additional evidence disclosed by defense last week [False Rape Society]
- Gay men and the men’s rights movement [Men's Activism News]
- Audit: Los Angeles Dept. of Children and Family Services Covering Up Child Fatalities [Glenn Sacks]
- UK: Boys ‘being held back by women teachers’ as gender stereotypes are reinforced [Men's Activism News]
- 5 Ways to Avoid Becoming Involved with Another Crazy, Emotionally Abusive Borderline or Narcissistic Woman [Dr. Tara Palmatier]
- Action Alert: Holstein Debates Leading MA. Senator on F & F’s Shared Parenting Bill [Glenn Sacks]
- Allegheny County Offers Jobs Instead of Jail for NC Parents Behind on Support [Glenn Sacks]
- FRS Bulletin [False Rape Society]
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Recognizing Parental Alienation Disorder in the DSM V – The Time Is Now
| Contributor: | Glenn Sacks [source] | |
| Date: | September 2, 2010 |
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Canadian Researcher: ‘We must abandon the claim that the (family) court has been acting in children’s best interests’
| Contributor: | Glenn Sacks [source] | |
| Date: | September 2, 2010 |
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Rape charges dismissed after additional evidence disclosed by defense last week
| Contributor: | False Rape Society [source] | |
| Date: | September 1, 2010 |
Daimon C. Parrish, through his lawyer, James P. Lyons, presented Montgomery County prosecutors with additional evidence late last week, which prompted prosecutors on Monday to tell a judge they will not move forward with any sexual assault-related charges against Parrish, whose trial was slated to begin this week.
“Evidence came to light late Friday evening that made it impossible for the commonwealth to meet its burden of proof at the time of trial. This evidence suggests that the crime of rape, or any sexually related charges, was not committed,” explained Assistant District Attorney Samantha Cauffman. “After reviewing this new evidence and speaking to (the woman) about the new evidence, I am convinced that a sexual assault did not occur.
“We are ministers of just. We are out to convict those that commit crimes in our county. We are not about convicting innocent people,” Cauffman added.
Neither Cauffman nor Lyons would reveal the exact nature of the new evidence.
“It was evidence that was of such a nature that it brought into question whether this was forcible rape or consensual,” Lyons claimed.
The new evidence was not specifically identified in court.
“It was the correct decision. It was a courageous decision, frankly,” said Lyons, praising prosecutors for dismissing the sexual assault-related charges against Parrish, given the new evidence. “The district attorney’s office seeks justice and not convictions and that’s to their enormous credit.”
Parrish, 36, of Hickory Lane, still faces a felony charge of criminal trespass, with which prosecutors alleged he entered Progressive Rehab on West DeKalb Pike in Upper Merion, where his encounter with the woman occurred, without permission from the owner.
Parrish, who has previous convictions for indecent exposure in Delaware County and disorderly conduct in Chester County, will address the remaining charge on Tuesday before Judge William J. Furber Jr.
Prosecutors were prepared to begin selecting a jury for Parrish’s alleged rape trial Tuesday. In court, Cauffman indicated she was made aware that Lyons was in possession of the new evidence for about two months.
“I was shocked because it went against all my impressions of the case,” said Cauffman, recalling learning about the new evidence. “I was very disappointed that the defense had this smoking gun and waited till the eve of trial to present it to me.”
Cauffman claimed the defense team’s delayed production of the “valuable piece of evidence” wasted prosecutors’ time, county tax dollars and judicial time.
“All of us worked very hard on this case, preparing it for trial, when he had a smoking gun that he sat on for two months that ultimately proved his client’s innocence with regard to sexual assault charges,” said Cauffman.
Lyons conceded he possessed the new information for about two months.
“For strategic reasons and to better the interests of my client I decided that I would hold onto it until I felt it was appropriate,” Lyons explained. “It’s my obligation to represent him as zealously as I can within the confines of what’s proper and lawful. It was my opinion, after I thought about it long and hard, that to take the course of action which I took, would best serve that oath. That’s why I did it.”
Parrish has been in jail since Dec. 26, awaiting trial on the charges.
“I think at this point, my client is a little numb because it was such an enormous turn of events. He needs to let this sink in,” Lyons said on behalf of Parrish.
Cauffman said “it’s not likely” the 20-year-old woman will be charged with making false reports, “given the unique circumstances surrounding the case.” Cauffman would not elaborate.
Parrish was arrested last December after the Wyncote woman told authorities she met Parrish through the Web site modelmayhem.com, where her modeling photos and profile appeared and that she later agreed to have him photograph her. The woman alleged that on Dec. 21 she took a train to Bryn Mawr where Parrish picked her up and drove her to Progressive Rehab, where Parrish formerly worked as a massage therapist, according to authorities.
The woman originally claimed Parrish photographed her and then forced her to have sex at that location, according to court papers.
While Parrish no longer faces sexual assault charges, court records show he has several previous run-ins with law enforcement, including a July 2005 conviction for indecent exposure in Delaware County, where he exposed himself to a minor working at the Radnor Memorial Library. Parrish served a 10-day jail sentence for the offense.
Parrish also pleaded guilty to disorderly conduct in May 2009 after he, “dressed in sheer white spandex,” walked through a library in Tredyffrin Township, Chester County, and exposed himself to library patrons, according to court papers.
In pretrial court papers, Cauffman alleged Parrish kept a computer journal in which he wrote graphic details about wearing mesh shorts or thong underwear that allowed him to easily expose himself to females at libraries, pools and art classes in Montgomery, Delaware and Chester counties.
Link:
http://timesherald.com/articles/2010/08/03/news/doc4c5866a3aeede515288826.txt
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Gay men and the men’s rights movement
| Contributor: | Men's Activism News [source] | |
| Date: | September 1, 2010 |
Latest from "A Voice For Men" here. If you're a gay man, don't let the article headline fool you. Read on. Excerpt:
'If you have spent any real amount of time reading the articles, and in particular the comments in men’s movement forums, then you are aware of an often anti-homosexual attitude that has been prevalent for quite some time.
On a political level, some of the resentment is understandable. Gay activists have aligned themselves with feminists, and, while marching in misandric lockstep, have draped themselves in victim couture and made their grab for special government considerations. The resultant draconian intrusions and bullying on behalf of gays and other special interest groups is a core issue in the men’s movement, and for good reason.
They have no idea who their real enemies are. No, not a freaking clue. And that ignorance sets up them up to lose more rights than they could ever hope to gain.
...
Gay men have invented new technology, built cities, researched cures for disease, made profound contributions to the arts, literature and philosophy, excelled at athletics and participated wholly in every aspect of the development of civilization as we know it.
...
... We live in a culture that doesn‘t regard gay men as men. So, it would stand to reason that a movement of social awareness and enlightenment, proffering that men who are gay are no less men than men who are straight, would have been in order. And it would have served a purpose not dissimilar from what we see in the men’s movement today- to wit, that holding men to standards and expectations based on sex, while relieving women of their corresponding expectations, has led directly to their systematic, conscripted misuse as human beings.'
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Audit: Los Angeles Dept. of Children and Family Services Covering Up Child Fatalities
| Contributor: | Glenn Sacks [source] | |
| Date: | September 1, 2010 |
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UK: Boys ‘being held back by women teachers’ as gender stereotypes are reinforced
| Contributor: | Men's Activism News [source] | |
| Date: | September 1, 2010 |
Article here. Excerpt:
Women teachers are holding back boys by reprimanding them for typically male behaviour, according to a study out today.
They are reinforcing stereotypes that boys are ‘silly’ in class, refuse to ‘sit nicely like the girls’ and are more likely to indulge in ‘schoolboy pranks’.
Women teachers may also unwittingly perpetuate low expectations of boys’ academic achievement and encourage girls to work harder by letting them think they are cleverer.
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The study of primary schools in the county suggests that under-performance among boys in most national exams could be linked to lower expectations.
The research mainly implicates women teachers, since nearly 90 per cent of primary school teachers are female. It warned that school staff find boys’ play, such as wielding toy guns, ‘particularly challenging and difficult’.
Boys are punished and urged to conform to a more feminine style of play instead of being taught how to play responsibly with their preferred toys.'
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5 Ways to Avoid Becoming Involved with Another Crazy, Emotionally Abusive Borderline or Narcissistic Woman
| Contributor: | Dr. Tara Palmatier [source] | |
| Date: | September 1, 2010 |
Many men have a long established pattern of dating and/or marrying crazy, emotionally abusive women with Borderline Personality Disorder and/or Narcissistic Personality Disorder traits. If you’re one of them and have managed to end your most recent abusive relationship, here are some warning signs and ways you can avoid becoming involved with another one of these highly destructive women:
1) Dig, baby, dig. Do a little gentle digging (i.e., no police interrogation tactics) about her past relationships and why they didn’t work out. Does she blame all of her exes and make them out to be bastards? If so, steer clear. You want to hear a potential love interest take some of the responsibility about the demise of her past relationships. “I was young and immature. I didn’t know what I wanted. I realize now that I…”
Taking responsibility for her choices and holding herself accountable is a good indication that you’re probably dealing with a grown-up. However, don’t confuse self-blame and responsibility. If she trashes herself, puts herself down, blames herself for her failed relationships, actually admits how crazy she is and drove the other men away, get out while the getting’s good.
If she tells you up front how crazy she is don’t minimize, ignore it or explain it away; look for the nearest exit sign. People will give you warning signs very early on in a relationship, so pay close attention.
2) Beware of an inexplicable, instant, powerful and overwhelming attraction to a woman or if you feel like you “already know her” because of an “instant connection.” Odds are you do already know her. She’s probably just another embodiment of your old issues. Yes, instant chemistry exists and this new woman might be as wonderful as she appears to be, but go slowly.
The charming, but illusory façade of an emotionally abusive woman begins to crack fairly soon into the relationship, but gradually, which is why so many men minimize, overlook, deny and/or excuse the abusive behaviors. She seems amazing and then there’s an attack “out of nowhere.” She goes back to “normal” for a few weeks and then there’s another incident and another and another and another. In most cases, the period of time between abusive episodes becomes shorter and shorter. Don’t wait that long to get out.
For example, the two of you meet and she’s great. Two weeks go by and she has her first rage episode in which she accuses you of being “insensitive” or “selfish” or some other such nonsense. You’re bewildered and left wondering, “What just happened?” This is when you should go on high alert and pay very close attention to what she does next:
a) Does she pretend like it didn’t happen? Does she minimize or deny that it happened? This is called gaslighting and it’s abusive. Get out now.
b) Does she apologize prettily, cry and say she was having a bad day at work and her boss was being mean to her and then you didn’t call her at the exact minute she was expecting you to call and she just couldn’t take it anymore and snapped? Don’t fall for it. This isn’t really an apology. She’s not taking responsibility for her bad behavior. Rather, she’s blaming her boss and you. Everyone has a bad day from time to time and maybe you want to give her the benefit of the doubt. Ok, but when it happens a second and a third time, she’s not “just having a bad day,” this is who she is.
c) Does she blatantly blame you for her bad behavior without even feigning an empty apology? There’s no gray area here. She’s an abusive personality and you need to walk away.
d) Does she cry and beg you not to leave her, flushed with high drama, saying things like “I don’t know what I’ll do if you leave me. No one has ever made me feel this way. I don’t want to go on without you. Please don’t leave me!?” Get a restraining order, change your phone number and get a new email account. This is probably full throttle BPD.
3) Beware of grand gestures or extreme selfishness. If she gives you an extravagant gift or orchestrates some incredible fantasy date within a few weeks of knowing her, be alarmed. If she expects you to take care of everything, make all the plans, entertain her, pay for everything and doesn’t reciprocate, be alarmed.
The former shows inappropriate boundaries and she’s probably working from the angle of “now he’ll owe me” and the latter indicates you will always “do” for her and get nothing in return except complaints and criticism. Nothing will ever be “good enough” for this kind of woman.
4) BOUNDARIES, BOUNDARIES, BOUNDARIES—Getting too close, too fast. Another warning sign is if she tries to insinuate herself into your other relationships and personal space too quickly. For example, you’ve been dating for two weeks, she finds out it’s your dad’s birthday that weekend and buys him a gift. Or she has roommate troubles and could she stay at your place “temporarily” after only knowing you a month. Or she wants to introduce you to her family in record time. This is evidence that she has poor or zero boundaries and it only goes downhill from here.
5) Mine! Mine! Mine! Extreme possessiveness. If she’s resentful early on about how and with whom you spend your time, this is a bad sign. Borderline and narcissistic women feel jealous and threatened when you spend time with your family and friends—even talking on the phone with your sister who’s having a health crisis will set these women off. If she becomes nasty and berates you about having outside interests and hobbies, then, in the words of the Apollo 13 crew, “Houston, we have a problem.”
This is an early warning sign that this woman will use any means necessary to isolate you from your friends and family—the people who care about you and your well-being. If a woman like this can effectively isolate you, then you’re basically under her control and at her mercy without any outside support to tell you that she’s nuts and you deserve to be treated better.
When you meet a kind, loving and healthy woman, it’ll probably feel a little strange to you at first. That’s normal. Ride it out. Remind yourself this is what you want and let yourself enjoy it. Consciously make the decision to be open to it and you’ll get there. Relationships really can be that mutually rewarding and satisfying.
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Action Alert: Holstein Debates Leading MA. Senator on F & F’s Shared Parenting Bill
| Contributor: | Glenn Sacks [source] | |
| Date: | September 1, 2010 |
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Allegheny County Offers Jobs Instead of Jail for NC Parents Behind on Support
| Contributor: | Glenn Sacks [source] | |
| Date: | September 1, 2010 |
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FRS Bulletin
| Contributor: | False Rape Society [source] | |
| Date: | September 1, 2010 |
As we approach the one year anniversary of the Hofstra false rape claim, we've been working on what amounts to a mini-book, Lambs To The Slaughter: The Hofstra False Rape Claim, which we'll post here on the site on September 10. It is easily our most important post ever.
Guest essays are welcomed. Just email us at falserape@yahoo.com
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