There Is No Such Thing As an Incel

By Biblical Manhood | Source | October 25, 2009

I've recently come across a term for people who are involuntarily celibate: "incel." What do I think about incels? Simple. There is no such thing as an incel. Ok, if you are in a coma, have some severe physical deformity, etc. then maybe I can see how the term applies. But for the rest of us? Uh, no. I've already written on the topic of discretionary singleness. The idea behind "discretionary singleness" applies to sexuality as well.

Virtually anyone reading this post can have sex if they want it. The question is: How do you want it and what price will you pay for it? Will you sacrifice ...

1. Your money?
2. Your time?
3. Your emotional welfare?
4. Your health?
5. Your relationship with God?
6. What????

You can throw your religious and social scruples to the wind, take a trip to Nevada and set up a few appointments with some people who are, um, licensed and professionally trained to help your so-called "problem." You can learn some approach techniques from some seduction experts. You can talk pleasantries with a twentysomething office worker in a bar who has had too many cosmos to know better, but not too many that she can't give legal consent. You can learn a new love language to talk to women, such as Japanese, Chinese, Thai, Spanish, Portuguese, Russian, Romanian, etc. You can upgrade your skills, look for a good-paying job, take on interesting hobbies, work out, eat right, save up for cosmetic surgery if need be.

What if you think sex outside of marriage is a sin? I certainly think it is! So what's your choice? Simple. Get married. Go to church, get active, meet a nice Christian girl, drop your picky preferences, lay yours chips on the table and go for broke! No? Too risky? That girl in the pew is not your type? Well, you could decide it's all not worth it. In that case, you would be voluntarily celibate.

What's your problem? There is no problem. You made the choices. Accept it. Your fear, your laziness, your self-pity, your pickiness, your inflexibility, your ego, and your selfishness are your choices. Likewise, your good sense, your prudence, your dignity, your integrity, your morality, and your spirituality are your choices. Everything has it price. Deal with it.